Fatherhood is a beautiful, difficult, fulfilling, yet thankless endeavor that I am grateful to go on. I imagine most people are, but this was never guaranteed. It is quite amazing that we can go from a egg and a sperm all the way to a human being. That the million things that can go wrong from step 1 to step Infiniti go right and this beautiful child enters the world. We even had to go through fertility treatments to get here, so I definitely am appreciative of his place in our world (or is it our place in his world).
As this site is called Dads Dollars Debts and being a father is my primary role in this world, I thought I would write about the top reasons why being a father is awesome (despite the fact that I am on my 3rd cup of coffee and am exhausted because he hasn’t slept through the night for his entire life)….so here we go.
Fatherhood is awesome
When is the last time you had the ability to do imaginative play. For me I think it was playing “Magic” the card game in 9th grade. After that it was basically video games for imaginative play, and those do not require much imagining. Now that my son is 18 months, the imaginative play is starting. It is mainly building forts or acting like everything is a choo choo train, but it is awesome. We can sit there an just come up with random things to do.
Watching neurons connect is awesome. Last night I was in the tub with my son. We trimmed his hair only once in 18 months and is fairly long. He started shaking his head and felt his hair hit his neck. The first time ever and he was thrilled. He just kept doing it and smiling and looking at me for reassurance and to share the experience. It was awesome and this happens multiple times each day from new words to understanding new concepts. This is one of the reasons I am sad that I cannot spend more time with him and that I am aiming to be semi-retired in my 40s. Better to at least spend his pre-teen and teen years available and present.
Now I am not one to think you need children to have a fulfilled life or have meaning in your life, but for me I cannot imagine my life without our son. He has changed every aspect of my psyche and goals in life (see he is making new neurons connect in my brain). My focus is not career, career, career except in that how it helps us have a better life. If my job forced a lot of travel and I was away from him most nights, I would reevaluate. Even my medical career is one where most days I am home by 6pm and ready to have dinner, give him a bath and help get him to sleep.
All of the fun things we will do as he grows
I can only imagine the fun we will have as he grows up. Going to amusement parks, camping, hiking, fishing, going to sporting events…the list is endless and will depend on all our interests. Luckily due to my profession we can afford to do most things.
Learning new things every day
I have no younger siblings and thus never had to take care of babies or even younger cousins. It was not part of my expected duties growing up. Now as a father it is definitely my duty. In the 18 months he has been alive and before I have learned about natural child birth (not what they teach us in medical school), baby lead weaning, changing a diaper, co-sleeping, whole brain child fathering, and much more. It has been a challenge at times, but it is always fun to push and expand your horizons.
What do you guys think are the best parts of being a father?